Saturday, June 13, 2015

Some changes around here

 Early this past week, this is what the upstairs hallway looked like
 as the week progressed, the sunroom was taken over
 and over some more
 Today found this happening-stuff removed from the premises
loaded up and taken away to another rental location. I kicked the GF out for many reasons, and not surprisingly, DS has joined her. He knows we love him, and that if this new arrangement doesn't work out, he has a home here. She simply can't return. 'nough said.

DD and I are languishing in the peace and calm. Hoping for the best, for DS's sake.

15 comments:

Rachel said...

Wow. That IS a big change. I hope things work out for everyone involved.

CT Bargain Mom said...

Wow! Holy frijoles!! Well, you did have things spelled out in the beginning....hope your son doesn't take it too hard - or learns a valuable lesson.

Mary Lou said...

How will that work for your budget?? Too bad, it ended up being a difficult living arrangement. Good luck with your changes.


CTMOM said...

MaryLou, I knew going into this what the possibilities were. I can meet all of my obligations, so no worries there. Of concern is the impact upon my ability to save for my next home. Yes, I need to review the budget, which I do every Summer, to see where we are, where we are headed. Having been here a year, I have a good handle on running costs for this home. So the budget will be tweeked, as needed.

Kearnygirl said...

Sorry to hear about the change but I'm hoping it's for the best. I once had my share of that and as soon as we "arranged" a different plan, we all sat back and said "ahh" - peace! So I know the feeling. Good luck with your budget and I'm sure you have it all worked out. You seem to be very good at budgeting so like you said "nough said".

Sandie Apuzzo said...

Sorry you had to deal with what sounds like a bit of drama. Glad that you can handle all expenses with or without them.

Belinda said...

Hoping for the best for you. Sounds like you have everything under control, as usual, regarding your budget. :)

NAN said...

My concern would be if they marry. I'm assuming your son is very serious about her or you would not have let them live in the same bedroom at your home? I'm sure you will manage financially without their contributions. Is your DD planning on returning to college? The longer she is out the more time until she is making a wage she can live on. I'm a big proponent of higher education or some technical training.

TrayceeBee said...

Carol, I am so sorry you had to do that. It had to be very very hard and stressful! Being a good parent is so very hard and I'm sure that when the dust settles, your son will understand your reasons and agree with you.
I'm glad that you had the foresight to plan for "what if" scenarios! So now you don't have to be uprooted from this rental as well!
Hoping your summer is drama free,healthy, and relaxing!!

NJB said...

Mental health is as important as financial health. This could not have been an easy decision but you did what is best for yourself, your daughter and your younger sons. You are an amazing financial manager and I am sure you can make this work for you.

Lili said...

Carol, I hope that this change brings peace to your household. The stress you endured this past winter was more than you ought to have borne. Best of luck to you, going forward.

CTMOM said...

Belinda/Sandy Kearny girl, I went into this arrangement knowing that I can swing it financially, if they aren't here. I wouldn't have jeopardized myself.I am far too much of a planner.

CTMOM said...

Nan, this was to be a hand UP, not the hand OUT situation that this was turning into. Add lots of drama, unnecessary passive-aggressive behaviors, nonwillingness to stick with the agreed upon terms and expectations, a foul mouth and general disrepect towards all of us, I kicked her out. Luckily, she was gone within a week. We fully expect that they will soon be kicked out of their new arrangement, due to the aforementioned. A leopord can not hide his/her spots for too long.

DD is on hiatus from college, paying off way, way too much debt that she took on, against my better judgement. She is working fulltime, meeting her obligations. She has tendencies to plan as I do.

CTMOM said...

Tracey, my lease is renewed, the couple's names are removed from it, we move on. I anticipate staying here one more year, get the twins out of HS, the divorce decree expires as relates to them,and ideally buy a home, just not in this town, which is too expensive. If I can't yet buy a home, I'll rent in another town/city in the meanwhile. I can easily find a nice place in the city just North of here for 1/2 of what I am currently paying. All of my next moves are in keeping in mind my desire to significantly downsize my month outgo. I have too many health issues/concerns and am uncertain as to how much longer I can work.

CTMOM said...

NJB and Lili-yes, this was a tough decision, but one that had to be made. Gf had been talking about moving since Nov! @@ so now, she can play the victim, I am the bad guy, I really don't care. Bottom line, peace is restored, my home is physically so much decluttered (GF was a bit of a hoarder) and things just feel physically and emotionally lighter. I am at a point in my life that I simply do not want that type of drama around me. Communication remains open with DS, he knows that we love him, and that he would have a place here to come back to, if the need arose. GF would not.