Friday, March 20, 2015

The snack cabinet

I previous wrote about the status of "the snack cabinet:"

http://ctonabudget.blogspot.com/2015/02/filling-voids-in-snack-cupboard.html

 With monies still owed me (comes to $267.33 from one and $125 from another or $392.23. Note that they each are obligated to pay $250/month for rent plus $100/month so both owe me for the past 2 months still and the next rent and grocery contribution is due in 12 days, April 1), I've prioritized my allocation of what grocery monies I have. Some of the snacks pictured are replacements/additions since last month.  I recently encountered several marked downs and specials on meat proteins that couldn't be turned down; the frozen meat supply had significantly dwindled as has baking staples such as flour, sugar. We continue to use up, eat what is on hand, adjust. I've never been one to buy many prepackaged snack foods, especially not fzn versions although they do cross the threshold as a rare treat, or opportunity due to a coupon combined with a sale, for example. Instead, I rely heavily on some snack staples: dried fruit, peanuts, popcorn, sunflower seeds, saltines and other crackers, pretzels, graham crackers, generic "cheez its." Compare what was in the cabinet (see link above) about a month ago, to what is there now. One opened box saltines, 1 bag pretzels, 1 box grahams, jar sunflower seeds + 2 pouches of honey flavored ones (Aldi clearance), popcorn, banana chips, bag of cheez its, bag of wheat crackers.
 Open bag of tortilla chips moved out of cabinet for photo. That's pretty much it, folks! I do have apples in a bowl on the dining table, a personal watermelon, grapefruit in the fridge along with yogurt, cheese, salsa.

An open jar apple sauce, 4 newly made individual bowls of generic jello. Additional treats have entered the home, and earmarked in particular for the twins, who are not responsible to contribute to finances. I also have some homemade cookie bars. Getting a little boring perhaps, but it is what it is. I don't have it to spend-so just what is the expectation?

16 comments:

cheryl soergel said...

Not being in this situation,it is hard to even say what I would do. Would you even consider telling both they have until (say three months) and they need to pay in full or leave. Does the gf have family that would help with her bills? You are in a difficult situation, can say I wouldn't want to be in you place. Cheryl

CTMOM said...

Cheryl,
There have been many, many conversations about this. It's draining. THe lease is up at the end of July, at this point I am seriously considering my options.

cheryl soergel said...

It would be draining. They just seem to get further behind and you wait. Someday hopefully they will see how easy you have been on them. Out in the world without Mom they would have been without a home or food. Sorry. Cheryl

CTMOM said...

Cheryl, the kicker is that they WERE out on their own, struggling. this was a mutual agreement (we have written contract between us)as a halping hand up, not a hand out. I have been very clear that my goal is to buy my own home in a few years, if possible, saving frantically to do so, after acquiring needs post divorce.

Gill - That British Woman said...

something has to happen, not sure what. I don't envy you, you "may" have to make a difficult decision........

sqbdew said...

may I ask why your daughter does not have to pay rent but your son does?

Julie Vidani said...

I wonder if they need to pay you a certain amount out of each paycheck. sometimes it's hard to learn not to spend what will need to be paid in the future.

Lili said...

You're providing meals. I wouldn't concern myself about providing snacks, too (exception -- the minor kids sill in the house).

Snacking is optional, IMO. I provide healthy, balanced and filling meals 3 X day. If anyone wants a snack, they can make toast, have some peanuts or peanut butter, make a pbj sandwich, eat some leftovers, make popcorn, make tea or cocoa. When our fruit trees are bearing, then there is also lots of fresh apples, plums and pears to snack on, and in winter, home-dried prunes. Plus, any time anyone wants, they can make themselves carrot sticks.

My oldest simply doesn't snack. My two youngest snack from time to time, and if one of them wants something specific in prepared snack foods, they buy it themselves, with their own earned money.

You can also look at this as a learning opportunity in their culinary skills, as they come up with new ways to use the basic ingredients.

And as they're not provided with a plethora of prepared snack foods, they are likely eating healthier, as a bonus.

You're doing good!

CTMOM said...

SQB-DD pays for food. She also repays me monthly for a car that was purchased for her, and she's been faithful about all of that. Additionally, she pays significant money monthly for college loans. DS has no college debt. She is left with little "pin money" when all is said and done.

CTMOM said...

Lili
Agree, snacks aren't essential and I've always said, "there's yogurt, fruit, crackers and cheese"-menu offerings for snacks are pretty boring. I figure that if one is truely hungry enough for a snack, they'll eat what is offered/available. I've never been one to buy a lot of purchased/premade snacks. Not good for health or budget

CTMOM said...

Lili
I should have added that like my approach to health and beauty aides, I buy what i buy but should one not care for a particular brand of shampoo, ceraeal or desire a particular "treat" food or luxury item, that purchase is the responsibility of the individual, not the general household grocery budget. Recent issue that rubs me the wrong way: I buy cleaning and laundry detergents. Recently DS and/or Gf came home with a large bottle of Tide. Umm-I just bought 4 jugs of detergent. It's from DT, it's discount but cleans well, smells fine, no worries, IMO. Apparently the $10 if not more Tide is preferred this month. Up until now, whatever brand I've had was used by them. Additionally, I know of at least 2 occassions where they bought take out food, while food (already cooked such as soup, so just reheat) or make a sandwich from ingredients on hand, was not considered. I am out almost $400, and each month, my grocery shopping has taken a serious hit, as a result. Instead of spend what I am guessing was $40 on take out that I can account for (there may be more), why not pay me the monies owed? @@ Grr

CTMOM said...

Gill, I hear you on this one. What I resent the most,and I've told them so, is that it's ME who has to bring up the issue of where's the money? instead of them opening the communicaiton with, for example, "I had X bill to pay, or worked less hours so I can only pay $X this week, but will try to pay $y next week." I just was raised to address/approach this very differently.

Lili said...

I would be quite frustrated, too, Carol.
Their purchase of Tide would be their business, IF they were caught up on other bills (rent!). I get it. This is irresponsibility on their part, and they're just not seeing it. I'm so sorry for you that this is working out this way.
I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

CTMOM said...

Lili, we are of the same mind set. I have told DS the same. You pay me in full, as required, when required and it's totally your call as to how you spend your money, although I would strongly encourage a written budget and savings. That is NOT what is happening, the agreement is not being adhered to, and frankly, it's just not right.

Isabella W said...

You are in a tough spot with your adult renters/children. After the lease is up, you are going to have to "kick them to the curb." It's obvious that they are always going to be behind because they have the attitude that there is a lot of leeway when one lives with mom. I doubt if there is anywhere else they can live where they only have to pay $350/month for a great home and great food! Now is probably the time to start warning them that they are out after the lease. With that news, I don't expect they will pay you much of anything. This is just something to chalk up as a bad deal. Sometimes you gotta' have tough love for kids to grow up.

kelley said...

You're always inspiring with your cooking/baking...too bad the two "mooches" don't realize how good they have it...home cooked meals...a wonderful roof over their heads for such a small price...so sorry you have to go through this...